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Guest Article... by Glenn Sacks
Women Have a Choice - Men Should Too...
A 25-year-old computer programmer has done what has long been thought impossible--he has united the pro-choice feminist left and the pro-life right. Matt Dubay of Saginaw, Michigan is the plaintiff in a new lawsuit in which he seeks to wipe out the child support payments he is obligated to make to an ex-girlfriend. He says he had made it clear to her that he didn’t want to be a father at this time, and that she got pregnant after she had repeatedly assured him that a physical condition rendered her sterile.
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Guest Article... by Kathleen Parker
Dads are the Awesome-est...
Unlike women, who know with inescapable certainty that they are the parent of their own child, men have had to place their faith in the integrity of their sexual partner. Thus, fatherhood was a voluntary commitment, a quintessential offering of self-sacrifice and surrender to mother and child.
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Men's Worklife... by Marty Nemko
Career Advise for Geniuses...
I’m now in my 20^th year as a career coach specializing in intellectually gifted adults. Here are the suggestions I’ve made that those people have found most helpful: 
Confirm your giftedness. Many intellectually gifted adults wonder if they’re really that smart. A confirming score, for example, 130 or higher, on an intelligence test can give you confidence that can last a lifetime. Today, intelligence (IQ) tests are often disparaged, but fact is, IQ is, for people of all races, a valid measure of the ability to think abstractly, complexly, and learn quickly—critical attributes in school, work, and life. Many studies, for example, those by Linda Gottfredson of the University of Delaware, have found that IQ, while certainly not perfect (for example, it doesn’t measure drive nor emotional intelligence) is the single best predictor of job performance.
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COYOTE... monthly column by Dick Prosapio
Just a Line... That Changed Everything...
I'm sorry."
That's all my father said to me. And with that all the years, decades really, of missed opportunity to connect, were over.
We were on the edge of the Snake River canyon. It was the last day of a four-day trip that my mother had forced my father to take with me. I was visiting my folks in Chicago en route in my '64 VW to Moab, Utah where I was to meet my then wife. From there we would drive south to El Paso where we were living. I wanted to show her the Red Rock country of southeastern Utah first.
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THE NEW INTIMACY... monthly column by Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D.
Fertilize Your Love...
Winter’s come and gone. And now, how does your garden grow?
No doubt it’s survived some difficult times during these past months, and yet it’s still there waiting for you to grab your favorite seeds, a bag of mulch, the trowel, and your flowered gloves so you can transform it into this year’s paradise. That’s not unlike the path of progress for romantic relationships. They, too, go through challenging conditions followed by new times of growth and expansion.
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JEFF'S LIFE... monthly column by Jeff Stimpson
Fleet's In...
Jill was taking Alex to Ikea on Saturday morning, so I decided to take Ned to Fleet Week. Fleet Week is an annual New York event during which a few U.S. Navy warships nose up the Hudson to a pier in the middle of Manhattan, and nestle themselves between the WWII aircraft carrier Intrepid, which is berthed there as a permanent museum, and cruise ships. The cruise ships are the biggest; Ned found the warships more interesting, even after having to wait on my shoulders in a five-block-long line while having to go to the bathroom. Alex wouldn't have made it, though I do intend to take him some year soon. (Alex doesn't mind Ikea, where he plays in the ball pit -- or at least he did last trip until they kicked him out because he kept trying to open the emergency exit door. Both boys have a growing interest in making adults other than their parents scramble.   
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DADS, DON'T FIX YOUR KIDS... monthly column by Mark Brandenburg, M.A
Forgiving your Father for Fathers Day...
The memory of my father stays with me like a shadow.
It’s a shadow filled with a complex array of gratitude, sadness, disappointment, and awe. It is the same for all men, for there’s no escaping these memories. They are deeply imbedded in us, and they impact us every day of our lives.
And whether you’re trying to live up to your father’s expectations, prove him wrong, or rid your memory of him, the shadow of your father will remain. Each effort demands its’ own cost. And each effort will keep the shadow close to you.
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TOWARD MANHOOD... A book in progress by Larry Pesavento

From chapter 17... Alone Together - Part 1
Most men who come to counseling have been ambushed by strong feelings they never knew they had. The relationship that they thought would give them happiness has betrayed them. Separation, or the threat of separation, has triggered the initiatory archetype inside. Buried feelings of abandonment rush to the surface, where they erupt into consciousness. The boy is being yanked from the village in an initiatory movement, away from nurturing mothers. He is overwhelmed by being thrown into the wilderness alone. His aloneness is frightful and shocking. The initiatory depression is overwhelming.
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LATEST REVIEWS

REVIEW: Straight Talk for Men about Marriage: What Men Need to Know About Marriage (And What Women Need to Know About Men)
By Martin G. Friedman ©2006
The author has put together an appealingly presented, male-friendly guide to improving the quality of our marriages. As Friedman is the first to point out, this isn’t exactly rocket science. We need to learn to do the basics. A marriage is a path to learning about ourselves. Projecting our discontent onto our spouse doesn’t do either of us any favors.
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REVIEW: Self-Made Man: One Woman’s Journey into Manhood and Back Again
By Norah Vincent
Norah Vincent has produced a new book whose simple underlying concept nevertheless seems to possess all the potential power of, say, John Howard Griffin’s classic Black Like Me, in which the Caucasian author masqueraded as a black man and was astonished at the depths of the discrimination and barriers he discovered.  Author Vincent tries to do the same thing for gender, dressing in drag as “Ned” and entering various supposed male bastions to report on what she discovers.
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REVIEW: The Smart Couple’s Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams:
Planning Together for Less Stress and More Joy
By By Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski
Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski, husband-and-wife psychologists and authors of three books previously reviewed by me in these pages (The New Intimacy, Opening to Love 365 Days a Year, and Be Loved for Who You Really Are) have just published a new book on their favorite topic, love and marriage. In a literal sense, The Smart Couple’s Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams covers a narrower subject than any of their three previous books.  But actually, predictably enough given the authors’ excellent writing skills and tireless, creative devotion to promoting passion, their latest offering manages to transcend the limits of the genre of wedding guides.  Not seeing a book that went beyond the technicalities of wedding planning and touched the spirit of the event, they took the plunge and wrote it!
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REVIEW: Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship
By Hal Stone and Sidra Stone © 2006
Hal and Sidra Stone are, like Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski (whose latest book is reviewed elsewhere in this issue) a husband-and-wife psychologist team who have written a number of books and who travel the world giving workshops on their techniques for improving one’s life and relationships.  Partnering does not represent a stunning advance on the authors’ previous work but it does expand, in the specific context of relationships, on the work they have helped pioneer in exploring the multiple selves each of us contains through the voice dialogue technique.
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REVIEW: The Prodigal Father: A True Story of Tragedy, Survival, and Reconciliation in an American Family.
By Jon DuPre.
Jon DuPre’s achievement with “The Prodigal Father” is stupefying. What this correspondent for Fox Network News has done is so simple: He has told the story of his family of origin, consisting of two brothers, himself, and his mother and father. As a novel, the book would fail. For one thing, the plot would be utterly unbelievable! But “The Prodigal Father” is billed as an “autobiography,” and written with loving detail and self-revelation so honest and so deep that took my breath away. As such, it is utterly compelling and simultaneously completely credible.
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REVIEW: Gendercide and Genocide
Edited by Adam Jones © 2006
Apart from the rarest exceptions (such as the not-to-be-missed “Female ‘Circumcision’ in Africa: Culture, Controversy, and Change,” Edited by Bettina Shell-Duncan and Ylva Hernlund), edited volumes tend to be hit-and-miss affairs. It’s hard enough simply to find an appropriate topic, to accumulate contributions that are varied enough to provide interest but not so different that they work at cross-purposes, and to publish the work. Maintaining a razor-like focus as can easily be done with an individually authored book by definition becomes almost impossible with an edited volume.
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