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Dr. Glover, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with a doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy, is married to Elizabeth Oreskovich, a psychotherapist who with Dr. Glover co-directs the Center For Healing And Recovery. They have four children and make their home in Tacoma, Washington.

Embracing Abundance
by
Robert A. Glover, Ph.D. ©2008
author of
No More Mr. Nice guy

Opening up to abundance isn't a pursuit; it's a state of mind. Abundance isn’t an issue of degree; it’s an issue of awareness and acceptance.

Abundance is not defined by how much a person has, but by how aware a person is of how much he or she has. If you can’t see that you are already abundantly blessed, you won’t be able to see it if it is multiplied by 10, or 100, or 1000, or even a million.

While it may appear that some people have more material things, that doesn’t mean that they have more abundance. The accumulation of stuff does not necessarily mean that a person feels blessed, abundant, or prosperous. In fact, having a lot of things often gets in the way of a person’s ability to feel wealthy or satisfied. Abundance can’t be defined just in terms of volume or mass. It can include health, friends, happiness, or well-being.

Abundance is like air. You are already experiencing it with every breath you take. If you already have all the air you need, there is no reason to hold your breath and hoard the air you have, gasp for more air, worry if there will be enough air tomorrow, or envy those who appear to be breathing more than their fair share.

Want to experience abundance? Stop pursuing it. Stop searching for it. Stop grasping for it. If your core paradigm doesn’t allow you to believe that there is enough to go around, no amount of searching or striving will allow you to receive what is out there.

Try this: Think about some good and unexpected thing that happened to you in the last twenty-four hours—some blessing that you weren’t seeking or searching for. It could be a stranger’s smile, a friend’s gesture of generosity, a favorite song on the radio, the touch of a loved one, a pleasant conversation, a good laugh, a refund in the mail. Too often we are so consumed with searching and grasping for something that we don’t notice the multitude of blessings that flow continuously through our lives.

Until you change your core beliefs about yourself and the world, you won’t find what you are searching for. You already have it—you just lack the ability to see it. The paradox of abundance is that you have to stop seeking it and start realizing that you already have it.

Developing an “Attitude of Gratitude”

At least three times a day, spend some time thinking about and having gratitude for your blessings. Try this first thing in the morning, before you go to bed at night, and at least once more during the day.

Create a way for this activity to be a moment during your day that is different from your other activities. If possible, find a time to be alone while you do this. It can be helpful to do this activity in the same location each time as well. Some people find it meaningful to create a meditative environment (e.g., lighting a candle, kneeling, sitting on a pillow, etc.). Do what helps you feel calm, meditative, and emotionally centered. The goal is to create a personal practice that is radically different from how you usually go about your day.

You live in an abundant world. You have been abundantly blessed. The key to having everything you’ve ever wanted is realizing that you already have it.

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