MENSIGHT Magazine

 
 

  COYOTE CALLING

 
A continuing series of stories & commentary by Coyote.
 
 


Home
Bookstore
Library
Archive

SPONSOR
Syndicated
careers columnist

Dr. Marty Nemko
offers open public
access to his
archive of
career advice:

www.martynemko.com

How Do I Become
 a Sponsor?

COYOTE ARCHIVE

Dick Prosapio aka, Coyote is a member of the TMC Advisory Council, ceremonialist, psycho-
therapist (ret.), author, leader of men's experiential workshops, & Co-founder of The Foundation for Common Sense. He lives with his wife and daughter in Stanley, NM

For more info about Dick Prosapio, visit his web-site:
Spirit/ Earth Path
 

 

 


The Pay-Off
by
Dick Prosapio © 2005

 

We have always managed to be "out of debt". At least that's how I've described the fact that we pay off any credit card charges every month so that we don't have any interest charges on them. This hasn't always been true, when we've bought a newer car or truck for example, but MOST of the time, we are unencumbered; no car payments, no time payments on computers or TV's, etc. If I mentioned this to anyone they would always say; "Except for the mortgage though right?"

"Well, yeah, there's always that." I'd say until now. I thought that this day would come oh, maybe ten years down the road. And I hoped I'd be around to experience it. "it" being the paying off of our mortgage.

Wow!

More of that in a minute.

I have always had this weird picture in my mind of a kind of ceremony around this occurrence. I mean, early in my life I heard about people paying off their homes and having this "burning of the mortgage" celebration. In my child's mind, and this picture remains, I saw a family dancing around a bonfire as the mortgage paper was burned in it. This seemed to be a tribal thing, something every family worked and prayed for all of their lives.

Freedom! Owing nobody anything. Having been raised in the Great Depression, owing nobody anything was the equivalent of winning the lottery.

Hmm, I guess it still is. Our "lottery" win was actually the inheritance we received upon the death of my mother. All in all it wasn't a huge windfall, but for us, living as we do on several shoestrings, it was just enough to make it the sensible thing to do. That is, to stop paying someone 7% a month on top of what we owed them. After all, nobody was going to pay us 7% on any investment we would risk taking. So, we did it, we took, what we thought of as our "security money", and got out of debt REALLY out of debt. In the climate we are living in now, there really aren't many who actually ever get to this place in their lives. Not in our trade-up-throw-away culture. Maybe few even aspire to it at all.

As for us, now we are living on Social Security and whatever small rivers of income we can, out of our creative imaginations and talents, conjure. And we are making it.

Right about here is where I, we, are supposed to begin worrying about the "other shoe". But I really don't want to fall into that morass. That road leads to all kinds of nightmare scenarios. Now that things are going so right everything could go horribly wrong. But the odds of that are the same as everything going rather well. I'd prefer to put my imagination to work on the latter. As to the event itself, the paying off the mortgage, I am still in the planning stages about how to give that the kind of celebratory oomph! it deserves. We've talked about having a dinner with friends, about having a BIG dinner with friends, about standing in a field, OUR field, and yelling joyously..I'm waiting to see what the mortgage company sends me in the form of a piece of paper to figure out what I want to do.

And, of course, there's the dancing-around-the-fire thing.

I think, in consideration of the concept of "closure", that's one ceremony that is a must.

horizontal rule

Dick Prosapio ©2005, All Rights Reserved
  CoyoteCall@spinn.net  

 

 
Copyright © 2001 The Men's Resource Network, Inc. All rights reserved