Dream Big, Dream With Love
by
Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D.
© 2006
The celebration of the new year is
the oldest of all continuing holidays. It was observed 4000 years
ago by the ancient Babylonians and has continued, with only minor
interruptions, into modern times.
Anything with a history that long and enduring clearly has deep
significance for the human psyche.
Perhaps it's simply a celebration of being alive, having made it
through another circle of the sun. But for many of us there is also
the recognition of death and rebirth, a letting go of what has been
and surrendering to what is yet to be.
Philosophers make the distinction between "being"--that which
already is (symbolized by Grandfather Time) and "becoming"--that
which yearns to be born (represented by the New Year's baby wrapped
in a fluffy white diaper).
In western civilization, there is the symbol of the kiss. After all,
at the stroke of midnight, it is customary to kiss the one you love,
expressing the promise, the future of your love.
That love, the kind that recognizes, values, and admires you for who
you really are, is what most people believe is the most sought after
experience in life. And it certainly is exhilarating when the one we
love sees us and knows us and says "YES!"
But what about that self in the future? Who we want to become, our
dreams and aspirations, our ambitions and the images we hold of what
we know is possible. After all, who we are is mostly composed of who
we've been. But who we will be, that's a matter of imagination,
desire, and commitment.
When lovers cherish one another's hopes and desires they embrace and
lift up for one another that new future. It is a psychic space into
which they can grow individually and as a couple.
This new year, respectfully ask yourself, "Where am I going?" and
listen humbly for an answer. You are calling on your soul to speak,
to show you more of what is possible.
Also, as a sign of deep and respectful care for the one you love,
sincerely ask "What do you want?" and "Where do you see yourself
going?" This not only demonstrates your support for what may be
possible, but offers powerful encouragement to search and discover,
and then in due time--go for it.
And what could be a better time than New Year's Eve to talk about
where the two of you have been in the last year. Embrace all the
success, and humbly value the challenges, for they have all prepared
you for what is yet to come. Then open your imaginations and make a
list of what you want to focus on and accomplish in the new year.
Don't censor or edit what you imagine. Acknowledge what you each
want to become individually and what you want your togetherness to
look and feel like by New Year's Eve 2006. You can imagine it as a
personal Board of Directors meeting with your souls guiding the
outcome.
Your New Year celebration then becomes an expression of hope and
desire, an honoring of what has been accomplished and survived and
what is yet to come. It is an affirmation of what awaits you within
and without. And it is a declaration of your commitment to the voice
that urges you to be more, to open your heart and mind even more
fully to what life and love have in store.
Dream big, dream with love. Only then can you create a future that
is far more fulfilling than anything you've ever known. Only then
can you bring forth dreams and goals that, once fulfilled, will also
make the world a better place.
We wish you a very Happy New Year! And may you enjoy it all year
long!!
Bestselling authors of four
relationship books, Judith Sherven, PhD and James Sniechowski, PhD
have redefined the future of weddings. From now on brides AND grooms
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