by
Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D.
© 2006
If you feel frustrated, even
mystified by what’s standing in the way of your greater success,
it’s actually not that difficult to understand.
The question is: Are you ready?
Really ready?
Because the answer lives down in
your unconscious . . . laying there . . . lying to you.
And that’s not just clever
writing, that’s the truth about your inner saboteur— that lying,
scheming, sneaky inner voice that whispers at you creating doubt and
despair, or sometimes lays silent, waiting for it’s next chance to
undermine your desire and ambition.
And what is it’s objective?
To trip you up and cause you to
stumble when you meet with a business opportunity that would take
you to the next level, or when someone new comes into your life that
you’re really attracted to.
And how does that voice do what
it does? By causing confusion, fear, resistance, rationalization, or
the all time favorite—the slip of the tongue.
And what’s the result? Instead
of doing what you sense would be better—even the best thing for you—
you run into roadblocks and hold-backs that limit your ability to be
truly fabulous each and every day.
And what is that inner saboteur?
It’s your unconscious loyalty to
the undermining messages you received, often when you were too tiny
to even be able to think about what you were hearing and feeling.
The kind of things parents and others said: “He’s such a burden.”
“She’s so fussy.” “He’s such a difficult child.” “I wish I’d never
had her.” “I’ve got to get away from him.”
When you were very young, it
wasn’t the words as much as the feelings coming from those who were
supposed to be encouraging your growth and development—but for
whatever reasons were consciously or unconsciously trying to keep
you small and non-threatening.
Remember, this is your
unconscious loyalty we’re talking about, and that’s why it’s so
often mysterious that others—who are not as talented as you are and
not nearly as bright—are getting ahead at rapid speed, or are
happily married, enjoying the success you so dearly want. And you’re
not!
If you know what we’re talking
about—even if you just sense the truth of it—here’s the big ticket
question you have to answer:
What do you lose if you vote for
your own success, your own magnificent relationship, your own way of
being alive, and you give up your self-doubt by rooting out and
eliminating that laying-lying-voice?
Because you will lose something,
something that’s been with you for most of your life—and even though
that something has kept you down, it will feel like a loss when you
finally decide, really decide, to give it up.
AND you’ll begin to reclaim the
life that’s rightly yours so you can achieve the success you’ve
always wanted—so you can begin to live and enjoy the fabulous life
that’s also waiting just for you.
Are you ready? ______
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Husband and wife psychology team
Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski are the best-selling authors of
four books. Get their complimentary tips for overcoming the fear of
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